Buy the ticket, take the ride.
I waved my best friend off to a new life in Scotland at 6am this morning. This is a friend whose house I shared as a young rookie, who pushed me down the aisle (literally, and maybe I should have heeded more at the time!) saw me through a divorce and celebrated the births and then the achievements of my children. Who was part of my family in every way, and who I will miss in my daily life immeasurably. But I’ve decided not to feel sad for myself, but feel joy for her and the bravery of her decision to change her life as she heads towards her sixties.
Letting go is a skill we all need to get better at. No long-term life plan can be created in a world that looks like this, and that changes so quickly. We need to become masters of extensibility and being comfortable with the fluid state. This needs a wholly new approach to life and the way we live – perhaps one that embraces uncertainty and instability and above all creativity.
Beyond that, curiosity about what we don’t understand needs to exceed that which we do!
And we need to be braver, get better at making decisions and understanding the difference between our musts and our shoulds!
It’s hard letting go of the things that we love the most, but all friendships and relationships by definition change as time and life moves on. But the bond remains if you work at it.
I think Winnie the Pooh best sums up friendship.
“We’ll be friends forever, won’t we, Pooh?’ asked Piglet.
Even longer,’ Pooh answered.”